What I’m looking forward to this weekend :)

Hi!

Wow.  The response to yesterday’s post was absolutely overwhelming.

In a good way, I’m pretty sure.

I did a mean thing.  I said a mean thing.  I’m still processing why I felt it necessary to say something so nasty.

It sort of was a great reminder – what my friend pointed out to me – and the overwhelming response I received on the piece, of the rules you remember before you make a comment.

  • Is this true?
  • Is this kind?
  • Is this necessary?

Sometimes I say things because I think it will be hysterical, and humor is sort of my default setting because there isn’t a ton that I can be serious about.  But I don’t realize how it comes off, or how truly negative and hurtful my words can be.

I appreciate yesterday’s yank back down to reality as a reminder that one, words mean things, and that two, we pick other people apart when we’re not 100% comfortable with ourselves.  And in my effort to be better about this, I’m gonna have to not only stop even mentally tearing others down, but also, saying mean things about myself.  It’s not doing anyone any good.

All that said, I can’t believe that we’re staring the weekend right in the face, and we’re barreling down on January of 2016.

Here are a few things I’m excited about this weekend:

  • I couldn’t find anyone to teach aerobics, toning, or step, back to back to back this weekend, so I’m going to eat a nice big healthy breakfast, and then take a crack at it.  Bring on the terrible comment cards!
  • Stacey, a trainer at the gym, told me that I could have her old treadmill that she doesn’t use anymore.  In addition to the activity I get outside of the house, it will be SO nice to hide out sometimes and just hop on the treadmill, even if it’s just for a walk while I listen to my podcasts.  I DO need to be careful though, that I don’t become somewhat agoraphobic.  My anxiety has been a little more active lately, and I don’t want this to be a way for me to hide out from all people all the time. 
  • Napping with my husband.  Sometimes, on Saturdays or Sundays, he will lay on one ratty end of the couch, and I will lay on the other, with our knees and feet all tangled in the middle.  That’s always the highlight of my week, because we work so much, and we don’t always make a ton of time.  
  • Running.  Always a good time to check in and say hi to my body. 

I’ve had quite a week.  Quite a week.

What are you excited about for this weekend?

Oh yeah, as a bonus, here’s a picture I took of one of my instructors teaching his class.

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How cool right?

As much as I damned whine sometimes, I am SO lucky.  I write.  I get to work out.  I work in nonprofit.  And I live in a zoo with my husband.  I am thankful!

The boy behind the blog.

You guys every wonder who my man-friend is?

You can lie and say you don’t, but the truth is that I can see everything that you google to find my blog, and one of ya’lls nosey selves has been googling to find out what my relationship situation is.  And typically, I won’t talk about him a ton, but this is Austin, the man I’m set to marry in a few very very short months.

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A little bit on the boy behind my blog.

  • We met in grad school, when we both were working at NC State’s Department of Campus Recreation.  He was a cycling instructor, and I was a Zumba instructor.  I was dating someone else when we first met.  It didn’t work out, and I like to tell myself that Austin jumped at the chance to ask me on a date.
  • Our first date was at the Rockford in Downtown Raleigh.  On this date, I ordered a burrito without chicken and he ordered one with.  They gave me that burrito with chicken and we didn’t notice til I ate about a quarter of it.
  • Austin is stupid smart.  He’s very math-minded and analytical, and these are really really useful skills for me to learn and to have, since I’m all artsy and loosey-goosey.
  • Austin likes to eat everything in sight.  EXCEPT mayo.  If someone brings him out a sandwich with mayo, he gets really really sad.
  • Austin pretended to like the Real Housewives of Atlanta for a short time when we were first dating.
  • Austin loves the NFL to the point where we scheduled our wedding so it wouldn’t interfere with his fantasy draft.
  • I once hit Austin’s car when I was rushing off to do something and he barely go mad (probably because my car got jacked up, and not his).
  • Austin want for me to feature him on the blog for eating disgusting items off fast-food menus, and then writing about it.  He wants to start with Taco Bell breakfast I think.  He also makes a habit of trying fish sandwiches from fast food joints, and then comparing them in-depth.

And that, ladies in gents, is the boy behind the blog.

I wish I had a picture for you today….

But I really don’t want to spoil how great my ink for the save-the-dates looks. So in its place, I give you this.
photo 3A picture of mah boo-thang on the cover of Rolling Stone.  I was gonna steal this issue from my parents’ house, but I forgot 😦  luckily I had this to keep me company.

Yes, ladies and gents, this is the highlights from Justin Bieber’s deposition video. For a really really good laugh, and if you’re at work, fast forward to 1:50, and have a laugh at Mr. Bieber’s quote. But really, watch the whole thing because it’s incredible.

Moving right along!

Okay, so I was really really disturbed by something yesterday morning when I woke up and checked the blogs like I usually do.

So I wake up, check the blogs, and one of my favorite mom-bloggers, Natalie Hodson, had revealed that she had been the victim of girl on girl crime, that another blogger had straight-up plagiarized her work by lifting a post, and changing one or two words, and I was shocked.

Yes, blogging is a job, but it’s a fun job!  Why on earth would anyone plagiarize?  It’s not school, you don’t get a grade for it.  And I got to thinking about how casual I am with my work.  I don’t watermark my photos.  I only google myself occasionally.  I’ve freely sent blog posts back and forth (and to some really really cool bloggers) without a thought.  And I’ve put my stuff out on the internet without a thought ant anyone would ever plagiarize.

Maybe it’s cause my writing sucks.

Or maybe I’m too trusting.

But either way, that realization that people actually do that really gave me the creeps.

Have you had any dealings with plagiarism?  How have you handled it? 

I’m stealing.

I know that I usually do my Here’s What posts on Fridays but I’m not feeling particularly passionate about anything (I told you guys I had a rough day at work yesterday), and I feel like, rather than force myself to concoct a list when I’m not really feeling it, why not just chat with you guys?

First, a little news!

We ordered my wedding dress yesterday, and the sketch for my save-the-dates was emailed over to me today.  After that, all I do is take them to the print shop, and they can get sent out after it’s sent to me via PDF.  If the weekend passes and I tell you that I haven’t gathered addresses, please come to my house, kick down the door, and strap me to the couch until it gets done.  But it’s getting real, and it’s exciting and scary and so cool all the same time!  I want the day to be here and I don’t all at the same time.  Eeep eep eeep eep!

Now, I’m stealing. 

I stole this over from Krystyn at Chits and Giggles, (hope you don’t mind, babe!), but I love love loved the thought behind the post.

If you could get paid do anything you want, what would you do?

I love it because that’s the question that really indicates what you’d be doing if you could do it.

So what would I be doing?

DSC_0034Some of it, I do.  I teach Zumba classes a few times as week which I love.

But if I could do anything, anything in the world and get paid for it, I would….

….Blog mostly.  Blog and travel and read other blogs, take photos and blog some more.

DSC_0035…Run. I would run and probably run faster if I thought that there would be some money attached to the deal.

…Travel.  Since I was a kid, one of the best parts of any trip is the stay in the hotel room, and nothing about that has changed.  If I got to travel around everywhere, run and blog about it, and sleep in delicious hotel beds, I would do it in a heartbeat.

So, that brings me to this.  What would you do if you got paid for it?

A tale of two cameras.

When I decided a few months ago that this blog would be a thing-thing, I also decided that I would need to graduate from taking all my photos on the iPhone, and start taking them on a camera.  Higher quality, and more permanence.

Side note:  I’d really really to get a real camera for the blog, and some real photos taken of me, but we’ll get there when we get there.

So two weeks ago, when I was headed to DC, I begged the husband-to-be to use his camera so I could take a few pictures when I ran up to the Capitol Building and ran around and stuff.  He obliged, but before he handed it to me, he said, “Please make sure I get this back in one piece.”  OF COURSE I will, why would I not bring it back in one piece?!

So I got to DC and was having a great time until the birthday/dinner party.  I asked this guy to take a picture of me and Scott, the host (pictured below)…P1020103

Which he gladly obliged by dropping the camera on the floor.

FACK.

The camera that I’d promised would be returned in one piece was now 100% broken, and I had to figure out how to make it right.

As soon as I got back from DC, I Google it.  Camera was discontinued.  Great.

Plan B.

I logged into my Amazon, and found that there was exactly one of these discontinued cameras left in the right model and right color.  So I bought it and sat in wait.

And waited.  And waited by the window until it arrived yesterday.

“Babe I have to tell you something,” I said.

And I pulled both of these out.

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I explained to him what I’d done, and that in wanting to make it right, I’d ended up replacing the camera.  And luckily for us, the memory card and the batteries were still good, so all of the picture were unharmed.  No harm, no foul, and I’d taken responsibility for what I’d done.

Now your turn!  What’s the most thing you’ve ever lost/broken?

 

 

 

39 Questions – Totally Stolen

Total disclaimer:  I stole this from Snack Therapy last week.  So read this, then feel free to steal it because it reminds me of that sort of LiveJournal (is that still a thing?) sort of old-school blogging.  I love it I love it.  So here goes!

1. Were you named after anyone?

Yes.  I am my parents first, and they named me after this Stevie Wonder single.

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My name is actually Cheri Armour, and one of the rough things about getting married is deciding whether to change my beautiful last name that my parents gave me or not.  Ah.  I’ve got a ton of time to decide, right?

2. When was the last time you cried?

It kind of makes me cry to think about it.  But the last time I really cried was when my grandmother died.  I cried for real when it was time to lay her to rest.  And it was really hard.  Let’s move along.

3. Do you like your handwriting?

Yeah duh.  I write like a total girl.  Wanna see?

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4. What is your favorite lunch meat?

I’m a vegetarian.  So none, please 🙂

5. Do you have kids?

No.  But I think I’d like some.  I think I’d be a good mom.

6. If you were another person, would you be friends with you?

Yes.  I think I always try to do the right thing.  I value that in other people.  I hope they value that in me.  And I really love my friends.  I hope they can see that.

7. Do you use sarcasm a lot?

Absolutely yes.  That’s truly how I used to deal with my problems.  I do it now because it’s like a second language.

8. Do you still have your tonsils?

I do!  I used to get sore throats a lot, but honestly, since I’ve started running, it’s not really been a thing as much.

9. Would you bungee jump?

Absolutely not.  I’m terrified of heights.  I’m embarrassed at how scared I am of heights.

10 What is your favorite cereal?

I am so boring.  I don’t really eat cereal.  But when I was a kid?

This.

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These are both things that I enjoyed with my mom as a kid, and I’d probably start crying if I took a bite of either of these two now.  It just reminds me of really happy stuff.

11. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off?

Yes.

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I mostly wear running shoes and it’s expensive to just mush them off, and it’s really bad for the tendons in your ankles to mush them off.

12. Do you think you are strong?

Yes.  I’m a little girl.  But I’m so so strong.

13. What is your favorite ice cream?

I’m pretty lactose intolerant, so I try to stay away from ice cream.  I love fro yo, and over the holidays I discovered pumpkin cheesecake fro yo from this place called like Yogen Fruz?  Does that sound like a real place or did I make that up?

14. What is the first thing you notice about other people?

Are they nice to other people?  Do they treat waitstaff and their mom and their siblings kindly?  They do?  Okay, we can be friends 🙂

15. Red or pink?

Red on my nails please.

16. What is your least favorite thing about yourself?

I hate that I lose things.  I cannot express to you how much I hate losing stuff.

17. Any tattoos?

Wouldn’t you like to know…..

But yes.  I have footprints on my back in honor of my singing group, and a little baby turtle.  I would like to get some huge colorful pieces after I get married.

18. Do you have any hobbies?


I run.  I run so much.  I love it.  I told someone today that I feel more like myself when I’m running like 30ish miles a week at least.  I blog.  And I sing.  Really well actually.  I made the X-Factor one time.  I told that story once.

19. What color shoes are you wearing?

Sock colored.  I’m wearing some SmartWool socks.

20. What was the last thing you ate?

Apricot Slice, courtesy of a Kiwi friend who came over for Super Bowl Sunday,  It tastes like something we eat in Haiti.

21. What are you listening to right now?

Anything by my woman crush.  Here’s my favorite Demi Lovato song now 🙂

22. If you were a crayon, what color would you be?

You know I own like 20 high-end nail polishes right?  Don’t bother asking me that now.  I’m wearing yellow now, though 🙂

23. Favorite smells?

I love the way my dog smells. That’s gross, but she’s so comforting.  She sleeps on the edge of my bed, and I wake up sometimes and peek down to check on how she’s doing.  And she she has not pooped on the floor in like a whole day 🙂

24. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?

My sister, Deb.  She’s two years younger than I am, but I’m pretty good friends with all of my siblings.

25. Mountain hideaway or beach house?

Bora Bora.  I saw it on KUWTK, if you don’t know what that acronym is, BYE.  Kidding, kinda.

26. Favorite sport to watch?

Girl, bye.

27. Hair color?

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Loc colored.  Very brown.  Lighter brown on the ends from working at summer camps.

28. Eye colors?

Brown!  So dark.

29. Do you wear contacts?

Yes.  I wear Dailies, and I really need Lasik because I’m getting blinder by the second.

30. Scary movies or happy endings?

Happy endings.  I hated The Breakup.

31. Last movie you watched?

Hm.  I watched Girls Season 1 all weekend.

32. What color shirt are you wearing?

A black race top from the Shamrock Marathon, the first marathon I ever did.  I almost forgot I had it on, and this sweet girl at run club was like “OMG are you from Virginia?!”  No cause I got the worst and only speeding ticket ever there when I was like 19.  SO NO.  I am not from the state which got me grounded for an entire semester.  Thank you though.

33. Summer or winter?

Summer.  I live for little tiny jean shorts.

34. Hugs or kisses?

Both

35. Computer or television?

Telly baby!  I love Bravo, HLN, and E!  I won’t try and make any apologies for that.

36. What book are you reading right now?

Hanson’s Marathon Method.  Pretending to read it.  Blogging instead.

37. What’s on your mouse pad?

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38. What color is your house?

This like weird brown color.

39. What color is your car?

Champagne darlings!

What was your favorite question of the stolen survey?  Now answer it!

Hiding behind a computer screen.

I was like a junior in college when this awful, terrible invention called “Juicy Campus” made its rounds around the internet.  10 points for anyone who remembers it.

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Juicy Campus, one of the most evil concepts to hit college campuses, was an online forum, organized by college campus, which allowed folks anonymously, without logging in, to post threads on each campus’ forum, which would in turn, generate a lot of responses.  I attended Elon University, a small liberal arts school of about 4,500 students at the time, which meant that everyone was logged on, and everyone knew who was talking about whom.

As you can imagine, this modern-day burn book took off like wildfire, and no one was spared.  There was one poor kid, who was rumored to have had social problems akin to a disorder represented on the Autism spectrum,  who constantly was the source of these posts.  In another, an anonymous poster criticized a friend of mine, suggesting that she get a nose job.  And when I was juiced, it started off as a thread that stated that I was one of the hottest black girls on campus (out of all .5 of us, whoopdie-freakin-doo), and someone commented underneath that not only was I not hot, that I was annoying and asked for extensions on papers.

Cool.

Juicy Campus is long gone, I think the rumor was some folks had committed suicide due to nasty posts.  I’m not sure if that was true, but it certainly hurt a lot of folks.

Fast-forward to now, when folks are still trying to hide behind computer screens to be nasty and bully others.

In a much more innocuous, but still snarky post on a local forum, someone posted that a duo that appeared on a local news segment was “annoying.”  A completely snarky, and unconstructive critical comment.  And for what?  I pointed out on the forum that local news folks could just as easily log into the forum as we could, and that such comments could hurt their feelings.

Here’s where I come in.  I blog.  I can be funny.  I have no qualms with making it very clear that I hate local morning radio for good reason, or that I’m a huge supporter of Rock n’ Roll coming to Raleigh in April.  But I can assure you that I will be transparent, that I will never hide behind the screen and bully or beat up on others of no reason.  I’ve poked fun at Lamar Odom, Olivia Newton-John, and every single Housewife of Wherever, but I do it with this in mind.  If this person were to read it (yeah right!) would they be in tears?  And if the answer is no, I feel okay.

So I challenge you folks, when you’re commenting on Facebook or Buzzfeed posts, when you comment on local blogs, or when you comment on Perez, that you keep in mind that celebrities, huge and small, are actual people.  If you might not like to feel like crap when you read something about yourself the way that I did, you might not like it either.  Okay?

Let’s hug it out.

 

It’s time for another round of…

Weird, weird, weird stuff people search for my blog by.

For those of you new to this little game I play, it’s when I make fun of really weird stuff people search my blog by.  I can see it because some search engines will release that info to WordPress, and bless those who do.  Because it’s provided me with hours of endless entertainment.

Look, I’m not trying to embarrass anyone, but this is some good stuff.  Let’s explore!

Search Terms

  • is the way to spell shuga in the south sugar.  Did you seriously just ask that?  You think people spell things differently in the south?
  • carley swanson.  Who, if you’ll remember, guest blogged for me a while back.  Incredible runner.  Does not spell her name Carley.  Hey, Carly, you have a little admirer.
  • rub a chub. Whut? Ew.
  • hey its half off girl. Hey, I guess.
  • floppy boobs medium -huge -big. The boobs make a reappearance.
  • why do white people exercise too much. Lord.

And for the bizarre kicker, the one that kind of makes me question what you folks are into?

  • mel b toes.
  • I love you guys. Keep it up.

Thankful on this final day of fundraising.

Today is the last day that I’m fundraising for Mercy Corps.  Every mile I’ve run, all the posts I’ve written, all the networking I’ve done, has all led up to this.

I am blown away by the response I’ve gotten from you all.  And I’m not just talking donations (even though they’ve been really really nice).  I’m talking the messages, emails, news stories, features, and willingness of everyone to chip in and lend a hand.  I just say thank you for all your help and support.

I’ll keep this short, and say that I’ll top off today with a short 4-5 miler to finish us out, and then we’re done with this project.

And by popular demand, the blog will live!  I originally had intended for it to wrap up like the project, but let’s face it, I’m dang good at what I do 🙂

No really, I really just like doing this and would be honored if you’d keep reading.  Thank you again, folks. Xoxo.