I was, and am thrilled to be getting married. Absolutely thrilled. I’m still in disbelief that someone wants to marry me, but that’s another discussion for another day.
We finally put a deposit down on the venue, and I feel like such a huge weight is lifted. I literally, to the chagrin of me darling neighbors, did a Rockettes-styled dance when I hung up the phone with Jeremy, my point person at the venue. The search for a venue was a frustrating one – especially because there’s no real indication of whats in your price range and what’s not until you visit a place. And then they tell you it’s a $20,000 food minimum. And then you die kinda.
Kudos to all you brides that make it look like you spent a year to a year-and-a-half enjoying making wedding plans over a bubbly pedicure with little flutes of champagne, and your wedding binder in your lap, but whatever. I am SO not that bride. Well, not yet.
There’s a little bit of anxiety that comes with being engaged, anxiety about the fact that you’re in this state of limbo, not a girlfriend, but not yet a wife, and you’re expected to run around with clouds around your feet, singing songs, and spreading your arms wide when you hit the high notes. And any shred of anxiety is supposed to mean that you’re making a huge mistake, right? Wrong.
Yes, I’m wearing a beautiful diamond ring, and I literally cannot wait to walk down the aisle and become an official family with Austin. But the diamond doesn’t transcend all, and daily things and logistics about the wedding will create anxiety. In the span of time since I’ve gotten engaged, I lost my grandmother, moved apartments suddenly, and started a new job, so arrest me for being a little off-kilter.
Additionally, the pressure from other people adds to this. People making demands as far as their invites, worries about money, logistics of getting 150 folks into your city and housed, fed, and drinked for a night, complaints from family members about your choice of dress, hairstyle, the venue – these all will add to some of your anxiety.
So brides-to-be, listen here. If you’re feeling a little overwhelmed, and you’re worried that your worry is a sure sign that you’re a freak, destined to be alone forever, chill out. You’re not the only one and your worry is normal. Relax and remember that in a few months, you’re about to throw the party of the dang century. Cheers!
2 thoughts on “Engagement anxiety – a wedding post.”
Bahhh! This is where I’m getting married too! So exciting!
AH! When are you getting married? I need ideas, I’d like to see how you’re decorating and all that stuff – you’re gonna have to help me after we get you good and married!