Were you like me growing up?
After seeing proposals as a kid on telly and stuff, I always assumed that the entire process of getting engaged was a giant surprise.
Whenever I would see those jumbotron proposals, I would always think to myself, “What if she says no,” not realizing until a teacher told me later, that a proposal, and an engagement, generally, were discussed at length prior to it happening.
So all that said, when I got into a relationship, the sort where I felt like I could share my life with this person, I had no idea how we were supposed to go about choosing a ring.
Wasn’t I supposed to be surprised?
DID I want to be surprised?
And then I thought about it.
I love Austin so deeply. However, throughout the course of our nearly four-year courtship, it became apparent that he might need some help picking out the jewelry that would symbolize the start of our relationship together.
For one, he was colorblind. When colors, especially those on the same note, were mashed together, he couldn’t tell the difference, which I learned after we spent a weekend painting together.
For two, he was a straight male engineer. Engineers are notoriously no-frills. He likes his hair buzzed. He doesn’t like fancy clothes. And fashion isn’t one of his main concerns. And knowing that, I still decided to try the whole “going to pick out a genre of ring, and letting my man decide” thing.
My husband didn’t know what to do. He didn’t know what was a pretty metal. He didn’t understand why I liked the stone in a certain shape.
So off to the jeweler we went.
We went to a custom jeweler in 5-Points who sat down with both of us. Austin gave him his budget on the DL, and I gave him what I wanted, after I figured out what I wanted. The day Austin got down on his knee, I was surprised, happy, and I think Austin was happy with my answer 🙂
So to answer the original question?
It’s really a matter of individual preference. But for me? I liked having my hand in the design process.
What do you think? How involved will you (were you) in the engagement ring process?