I live for reality television, and I thank goodness that someone invented DVR, because without DVR, I would have to make some extremely difficult decisions on Sundays especially. Real Housewives or Keeping Up with Khloe Kardashian (cause she’s the main one I’m concerned with, BYE Lamar). But as I was watching on Sunday, I had a real, visceral reaction to something that kept coming up during Sunday’s episode.
During the episode, Kenya Moore, a former Miss USA, repeatedly made snide comments about the weight of other cast members, and the comments that she made, specifically about Kandi being able to miss a few meals and Phaedra being 200 lbs plus, were uncalled for. She was upset with the women for being late to a function, so their weight should have never even been an issue.
I have a big problem with, when women want to tear one another down, them automatically defaulting to calling each other fat.
Example: You’re standing in line at a bar. A girl skips you in line. Your first reaction is to call her a “fat bitch”. Why? Why is weight the first thing we want to call out? Why do we, as women especially, feel the need to equate the word “fat” or calling someone a “fat bitch” with being a bad person? Especially when you’re not upset with her for being big. You’re upset with her for skipping you in line!
I feel like I try to be a champion, especially on this blog, for folks to make change for themselves that will lead to a happier, healthier lifestyle. However, if I can help it, I will never base my opinions on anyone on the way that they look. If someone makes me upset, I think it’s wrong to attack anything other than what made you upset in the first place.
I’m upset with the comments Kenya made. They only thing I should be commenting on is her comments, and her evidently very nasty streak. Not her appearance, because to attack anything about her appearance is just counterproductive, and to me, shows me that I’m insecure if I feel the need to do so.
So here’s my challenge. In the next week, when someone upsets you, try to think of something to say that directly applies to what they’ve done. Someone cuts you off in traffic? They’re just a poor driver, not a “fugly slut” (thanks’Mean Girls’). Make sense? Try it out, and see how much better you feel.